Bebe is sprawled between me and the keyboard as I type, so this entry will be somewhat ergonomically challenged.

Busy weekend! Barnes arrived on Friday to inspect his new niece (he approves). On Saturday we went to brunch at Afshin’s and plotted our next move. Saturday night was Games Night at 795 Alcatraz. Sunday was supposed to have been a surprise birthday party in Palo Alto for Ian, except that Jeremy spilled the beans. On the bright side, Kat made trifle and Alusha made pav. I absconded with the remains of the potato gratin.

Bukes: I started rereading A Suitable Boy two days before Claire was born. I read five hundred pages in the first two days, fifty the next week, a hundred the week after that. My reading is gradually returning to normal speed. ASB was the perfect post-baby book, as it happened: soulful and episodic, so that I could read it in small bites between stops on the feed-burp-change express.

Once I finished that I tackled Sarah Blaffer Hrdy (not a typo)’s Mother Nature, a wonderful synthesis of thirty years of research in anthropology and biology, which explains exactly why new mothers are intensely territorial and ambivalent. (No word yet on why I was intensely territorial and ambivalent before I had Claire.) Mother Nature, which I intend to give to all my friends who are mothers, revisits a lot of the ground I covered last year: the Darwin biography and Goodall and Fossey and The Metaphysical Club and The Mismeasure of Man.

So I’ve been thinking a lot about reproductive success in game-theoretical terms, and how players try to influence the allocation of resources. Now I’m reading Imperial San Francisco, which traces corrupt dynasties through the Gold Rush and the earthquake and the water wars. The saddest aspect of this book is the lost opportunities: the extension of the Panhandle to Civic Center, to form a Parisian boulevard; the Frederick Law Olmstead-designed Central Park where South Van Ness Avenue runs today. In daydreams I walk through a ghostly San Francisco of the future that never was.

Meanwhile the nation juggernauts towards war and the rocket ship I watched on its maiden flight burns up on reentry.

R (ruffling through the front section of the New York Times): Is there any good news in here?

Barnaby: The Museum of Natural History is rebuilding its dioramas.

R: Oh. (Pause.) Good. How’s Claire?

B: Really cute.

Ian: I was thinking about Salome wanting humanely killed meat, and I had a brainwave.

Rachel: Here we go.

Ian: Abattoirs combined with petting zoos!

Rachel: We’ll see how that works out for you.

Ian: No, it’ll be brilliant. Imagine, seven-year-old boys wielding the air bolt.

Kat: And people wonder why I’m with this man.

Ian: Wave of the future, baby.

One of my belated Christmas presents was season three of The Sopranos on DVD. That’s probably why I picked up this exchange between the hepsters at the next table.

Gleeful Hepster: Fuck, man! You’re dating Meadow.

Gloomy Hepster: I know.

Gleeful Hepster: What are you gonna do when her Dad says “Fuck you, Jewboy?”

Gloomy Hepster: She says she told him about me, and he said: “Oh.”

Gleeful Hepster: That does not sound good…

So we upheld our Australia Day tradition of a picnic in the Botanical Gardens. It’s usually Sydney, but this year we made do with Strybing Arboretum. We served Iced Vo Vos, and everyone was polite enough not to spit theirs out.

The other day our lesbian doppelgangers came into Atlas. They were sitting at the table behind us. The crypto-Rach was pissy because the bagels were all gone.

Crypto-Jeremy: How about a baguette?

C-R: You don’t even like baguettes.

C-J: It’s for you, dummy. You need to eat.

Leering heterosexual guy sitting at the next table: Masses of bagels at my place. My place is packed with bagels.

Pause.

C-J: Let’s get you a baguette.

C-R (pissily): You mean I’ll have to stand in line all over again?

C-J (patiently): I’ll go with you.

Later a pretentious woman took the table next to us.

PW: My producer and I were using minimalist in its true sense, but my friend said I can’t use the term minimalist because there’s an actual musical genre called minimalism which my work sounds nothing like… though I have been compared to John Cage… Why do you say David Byrne? No, it’s interesting, because I am often compared to David Byrne… What I don’t understand about the music industry is why it rewards people who put themselves forward, at the expense of people who create art…

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Atlas is such a bountiful source of material that I sometimes suspect people of just winding me up. It’s a puzzler. Are these real pseuds, or are they only pretending?

Claire is one-twelfth of one year old today. We celebrated with haircuts. Jeremy’s patriarch beard is now looking more kind of Boromir, and I’ve turned all Rutger-Hauer-in-Bladerunner!

Queen Victoria.

Claire’s paternal grandmother has taken over blind-adoration duties, and is performing admirably.

“I was up all night just thinking about her,” she said.

Well of course.

Mao Zedong, Fat Elvis (in her white jumpsuit) and The Squeaker Of The House. I keep telling her she shouldn’t squeak until squoken to, but kids today, what can you do?

Nice things keep happening. The guy who makes sculptures out of twist ties dropped by our table at Atlas yesterday to give us a little twist tie guy he’d made especially for Claire. Today I was chatting to a woman in the line at Cala, and she said “Is she always like this? Most babies cry! How did you get to be so blessed?” Beats me.

Claire was her usual pacific self at the march. We caught up with our fellow Concerned Parents, Jonathan, Tina, Paul and Lisa, but we didn’t see Jack, Salome, Dana, Shannon or Spencer, who were also there, along with uncounted tens of thousands of other right-minded folk. Joan Baez sang beautifully, Tom Ammiano was entertaining and a woman from the Arab Defense League annoyed both Jeremy and me by threatening a second Saladin for this new crusade. Also, it was all the white people’s fault, including the white people in Israel. More intifada! And here’s some atrocious poetry for good measure.

How I gnashed my teeth. I think she was unclear on the whole “peace” concept. Over to the man of the day, MLK: “The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it… Through violence you may murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate…. Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.”

And: “If we are to have peace in the world, we must see that peace is not merely the absence of negative force; it is the presence of a positive force. True peace is not merely the absence of tension; it is the presence of justice.”

The baby books list six states in which in infant might be: quiet alert, active sleep and so forth. To these I’ve added three more: Reclining Buddha, Mister Creosote and the Baron Harkonnen. As these probably suggest, Claire is still eating like it’s going out of style.

Today she’s wearing the rainbow tie-dyed onesie my mother sent over from Australia, because we’re taking her to her first anti-war march.

My Uncle Arthur was buried today in Thetford, Norfolk, England. He died three days after Claire was born. I didn’t call and tell him about her, which I regret.

He grew up in The Buildings, a block of council flats off Tottenham Court Road in London. He told my mother he remembered a game he and his friends used to play as boys: climbing inside truck tyres and rolling through the alley and out into Tottenham Court Road, to the alarm of traffic and the delight of the players.

I first met him at Christmas 1993. I was a graduate student in Ireland, and I spent the holiday in Thetford. Uncle Arthur showed me the sights. Thetford has two of these: a statue of local boy Thomas Paine, and the location for the outdoor shots for Dad’s Army. We had a ball.

He was a kind, loving, gentle, decent man, an excellent husband to my difficult Auntie Ruth and a good father to my cousins James and Helene.

Miss Claire has been At Home To Visitors for the last few days. It’s been great. Karen, Robert, Gayu, Tina, Steve, Parker and Salome have all stopped by to pay their respects. We never had this much entertainment when it was just us.

Quote of the week goes to Gayu. We were discussing booking Claire into pre-school, and how we really should have done it before she was born.

G: It’s the same in India. To get me into school, they had to send our watchman to stand in line overnight.

We all smile.

G: What?

Robert: Child of privilege.

G: Why?

Robert: Some of us didn’t have watchmen to stand in line for us.

G (wounded): It was a company watchman.

In homage to this and to the Jane Austen miniserieses that I have been devouring of late, J & I have renamed the rooms of our microscopic apartment. Up here’s the Library and the Master Chamber. Then you head through the Picture Gallery to the South Wing, with its Drawing Room and Banqueting Hall. (This is much funnier if you’ve actually tried to squeeze yourself into our house.)

Damn, I thought I was doing a reasonable job of keeping Yatima up to date, but the days just fly past. Claire has put on another pound and now weighs in at 8lb 3oz, putting her out of the featherweight class and well into the middleweight baby divisions. The more she packs on, the less like Gollum she looks and the more striking her resemblence to Churchill becomes. “We will fight them on the beaches.”

Party tricks: having mastered pooing-while-eating and stretching-while-yawning, she attempted an advanced manoeuver for Robert and Gayatri this evening: projectile-pooing-while-sneezing-during-a-nappy-change. My jeans were despoiled! The crowd roared!

Our very amiable pediatrician thinks Claire is very smart. I have two hypotheses here: either this means that Claire is very smart, or that our pediatrician can judge his audience to a nicety. Actually I just came up with a third hypothesis. You should always praise a smart girl for her looks and a pretty girl for her brains, so maybe he thinks Claire is beautiful.

How I dote. What a sap! What happened to me?

Mum’s learning.

M: Ooh – there’s another thrift store – Out Of The Closet.

R: Heh. Yeah. It’s an AIDS charity.

M: I don’t care what it’s a charity for.

R: I just think it’s a funny name. You know, for an AIDS charity.

M (sagely): It’s probably intentional.

I too am learning how to communicate with my daughter.

R: Do you want me to feed you, change you or burp you?

C: Aah!

J: You might want to stay away from multiple choice questions for now.

I wake up with a start, and shake Jeremy. “What’s the date?”

He blinks.

“What month is it? What month is it?”

“It’s January,” he says.

“Oh, God,” I say, dissolving into tears. “Oh God oh God oh God.”

I’d dreamed that I’d lost my short-term memory. It was November, and I’d missed the first year of Claire’s life. Worse, I realized as Jeremy wearily explained things in my dream, the condition was incurable. I was going to forget again, and he was going to have to explain again, and again and again and again.

R: My stitches itch like buggery.

J: Buggery doesn’t itch.

R: It would if we tried it now.

I made it outside! Dolores Park has never been so beautiful. Fresh air! Trees! Wow! I also saw a Jack Russell humping a terrier, from the wrong end. I was on the phone to Tina at the time.

R: He’s humping its head! Oh, I suppose they’re having oral sex.

T: What can you expect in San Francisco?

R: Even the dogs are perverts.

Later Mum was reading one of the gay papers.

M: Look at this woman! What an extraordinary dress she’s wearing!

Pause.

M: Oh, she’s a drag queen.

R: Yes, Mum.

M: I’m just an innocent English girl abroad.

R: You’re in San Francisco.

Two jokes we’ve had running. The first, from Ayun Halliday’s book The Big Rumpus, was an obstetrician describing the best possible patient – a woman with very little English, who just labored and gave birth – and the worst – “a white girl, with a birth plan and a CD of Pachelbel’s Canon.” The second was me watching the sun rise after Claire was born, feeling like the white wizard in The Two Towers: “Gandalf. Yes. That’s what they used to call me.”

Today memes converged.

R: I was Rachel the Grey. Now I’m Rachel the White.

J: Rachel the White Girl With Birth Plan and Pachelbel’s Canon.

More interesting than a really good book. Deliciouser than food. Scrummier than an entire meadow full of ponies.

Salome: What happened to you? You sap.

We have lots of parent friends who gave us uniformly excellent advice and warned us about the many potential pitfalls. I think I’d braced myself, because I didn’t ever really imagine so much simple pleasure: Claire’s first sunbath; how when she’s sleeping on top of me, if I sigh, she’ll sigh too; her addictive scent; the way food tastes even better now than it did when I was nine months pregnant and continually hungry; the fact that even though I’m sleep-deprived, I can sleep more deeply than I have in months because I’m not pregnant any more; the expression on Jeremy’s face when he looks at his daughter.

It’s been a spectacularly happy last few days.

Yatima is the Swahili word for orphan, and it seems amazing to me that anyone could leave this poor urchin to our tender mercies. But there she was in our hospital room, and no one has come to claim her yet.

Today’s big achievement: Claire’s first trip to Atlas. No poo bagels.

About ten minutes after I wrote that last entry, Jeremy and I headed off for a very late breakfast at Atlas.

“They’ll be out of blueberry bagels,” I said gloomily.

“Yes,” said Jeremy. “They’ll have nothing left but poo bagels.”

I laughed so hard, my water broke. We never made it to Atlas. Claire was born fifteen hours later, at 3.42am on Christmas Day. We’re home now, and she’s curled up in her sling as I type.

Still no baby. One study found that the average length of pregnancy in first-time, healthy white mothers is 41 weeks and one day, which would be Friday. So no reason for alarm.